Husbands Love!

Usually, my audience is married Christian moms.

HOWEVER. Thats not the case today.

Today I am writing to the husbands. Ladies, you can read too, but share this with your hubby. It is for him.

Love is such a popular word to the world. It hits the palette and goes down much easier than “submission”. The world loves to love, but the world loves on their own terms.

The world tells us that love is love. We can love whoever for however long and once that feeling is gone we can move on to love someone else. If we’d like we can even romantically love more than one person at once. Love should be free.

The problem with that definition of love, however, is that it just isn’t true.

Love is not a feeling. It is a choice.

Agape is the Greek word used throughout the New Testament to explain God’s love for us. A passionate, unconditional love. It is also the word used to describe how husbands should treat their wives.

One of the definitions of agape is “love of reason”. It is love that shows up when you feel like it and when you don’t. It is putting someone else’s needs and desires above your own. It is a sacrificial, lay your life down kind of love.

In Ephesians 5 Paul compares the love of a husband for his wife to Jesus’ love for his bride. Jesus laid his life down for the Church. He sacrificed his own desire (not to be crucified) for the well being of each and every one of us. Thus, the husband loving his wife needs to wake up every day and figure out how he is going to bless her, spoil her, and love on her in a way that puts his own desires aside.

I think this directive to men has been one of the most abused and least practiced parts of scripture. Period.

For centuries men were great at enforcing submission from their wives, but not so great at gently and tenderly loving on their wives.

From the very, very beginning God saw that it was not good for a man to be alone, so he made him a partner. From the very beginning he declared that two would become one flesh.

Marriage is a huge commitment and whether you entered into it on a whim or with great consideration, if you are married then that’s where you are at. Your spouse is your spouse. You don’t need a new one. You need to take care of the one you have.

Maybe you don’t even like your wife, but let me ask you, are you actually loving her?

Are you loving her with her love languages?

Are you listening to her? To what she says and what she isn’t saying?

Are you giving up things you like to benefit her?

Are you even willing to do that?

What is love to you?

Do you actually believe John 15:13? (Yea, I’m going to make you look it up)

What in your life is holding you back from loving your wife more?

If you want to get a little more and hear Joel and I talk about how this idea plays out in our marriage, please watch below!